Becoming one’s best self is a lifelong process. Personalities are not set in stone. Changes are inevitable and possible. While each person’s life is unique, it is often a reenactment of the past prescriptions from society or parents. Negative characteristics of influential caretakers during our early stage of life are taken on as personal characteristics. Those characteristics have an impact on goals in life, relationships, and careers.
On this website, some methods of freeing yourself from past dictates are provided. You will find blogs by people like Andrew, who explains hot to Break Free From the Mainstream.
To continue growing and moving toward a passionate and fulfilling life, it is sometimes necessary to leave everyone and everything behind. Time spent regrouping and recalibrating to discover and connect with your true self is needed. Staying close to everyday routines tends to make people stagnant.
Spend time having new experiences and ideas, with new people, in different scenery. Explore what you want to become and allow yourself to just be you. Other people’s expectations can be stifling. You may discover a better style, house, job, or people. You may decide you miss what you left and want to return. Either way, you decide what is best for you. Read Jonathan Smit’s post about his traveling experiences.
Here you will find pieces of advice on how to generate transformation. What needs to be shared is that mindfulness, diligence, and concentration are required. Every moment of our lives calls us into choices of behavior.
Are we going to be disciplined or allow ourselves to be distracted? Are we going to focus on the task at hand or perform it with idle busy-ness? Do we deserve compassion or self-pity? Are we going to create or complain? Will we be honest or pretend? Are we going to be kind or criticize?
The wrong choices can be costly in terms of transformation. Some people believe the harder they work, the better things will be. They try to do everything perfectly. More energy is spent on business than family. Read this article for some thought provoking ideas to consider.
One topic of particular interest on this website is encouraging people to get out of their comfort zone. A comfort zone is related to anxiety levels. Getting outside a comfort zone does not necessarily mean trying something new. Anything that raises anxiety is outside the comfort zone.
Looking for anxiety is not what most of us are prone to do. A hint of anxiety can be surprisingly beneficial. It pushes us to get work done or to improve performance. There are limits. Task difficulty and high anxiety cause a drop in performance.
Anxiety often stems from an uncomfortable level of uncertainty. Uncertainty causes people to respond strongly to negative experiences. A study found uncertainty preceding negative images is more upsetting that expected negative images. Uncertain economic, political, and social conditions make comfort zones smaller.
Familiarity is enjoyable and comfortable. New things cause people’s guards to go up. New things require energy. Tired individuals are likely to turn to old habits rather than take a risk. A mixture of self-doubt, anxiety, and success leads to personal growth. Skydiving and rock climbing are exhilarating. They induce uneasiness ad anxiety. When completed, a feeling of accomplishment is gained, and the level of confidence increases. Regularly leaving your comfort zone increases the number of things you are comfortable doing.
Some of the articles on this website discuss discomfort and success, dreaming bigger than your fears, and reasons to push through fear.
Success and Failure
Our egos are our worst enemy concerning failure. Defense mechanisms kick into gear when things go wrong. Editing, chasing losses, and denial are typical reactions that hurt our adaptability.
Admitting a mistake was made is a hard thing to do. We have to challenge a self-created status quo to make things right. Refusing to draw a line, when we have made a regrettable mistake, often causes more damage. It can be compared to a poker player making riskier than usual bets in an attempt to recover losses and erase the error. Sometimes we try to bundle losses and gains to find an interpretation that convinces us the mistake did not happen.
In the complex world of today, an adaptive, experimental approach is needed to succeed. Try a lot of ideas and plans, knowing that failure is common. Experiment with failure. Take on small projects that provide a learning opportunity where the chance of failure is less likely than success. Know how to recognize failure.
Recognizing failure is hard. We have been taught that persistence will pay off. Cutting your losses and declaring an idea a failure feels wrong. Accepting failure allows you to re-cast into something more likely to bring success. Remove emotions from the equation. Look at the costs and benefits of proceeding.
Having a plan is a good idea. Do not kid yourself into believing failure is impossible, or the need to adapt is not necessary. Remind yourself that the Titanic was thought to be unsinkable. Finding a safe place to fail does not have to be in a secluded room alone. Make your safe place a state of mind. Permit yourself to try a combination of off-the-wall and by-the-book ideas.
On the website, you will find blogs about productivity and success, roadblocks to success, surrounding yourself with successful models, prerequisites for success, and a strategy that proposes attempting to fail.
Personal development occurs when we change the way we think and act. Most decisions are either emotional or logical. People tend to use one or the other more frequently. Neither is a better approach. Logical people make smart decisions, but may struggle when relating to others. Emotional people may relate well to others, but do not have organized goals or plans. A balance is best. This website has sections on social skills and productivity that may be beneficial to those who lean one way or the other.